Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an outward act with enormously beautiful outcomes for yourself.  When one forgives, one energetically and automatically is given permission to detach from the negative circumstance. 

It may take a while to get to the point of forgiveness.  When we realize that holding on to the anger, shame and sadness associated with being wronged is no longer serving us a purpose, we let it go, let it fly into the ethers.

How, you may ask, is holding on to such dark feelings serving us a purpose?  Why do some people choose to stay stuck in the vortex of negativity? 

Very basically, when blame is placed on others, it provides a self serving platform on which we do not have to be responsible for ourselves, our actions, our feelings, our behaviors.  We justify our jadedness for the sake of not wanting to grow, or more likely, not feeling worthy enough to grow.  "The reason I am so miserable is because you made me feel that way.  I sort of like it this way, though, because when I am angry with you, it prevents me from having to deal with other things".

Truth be told, no one can "make" you feel any way.  You choose to feel how you feel.  Not a huge newsflash, yet it bears reiteration. 

Forgiveness can be truly frightening.  We can fear the unknown, we can fear the self accountability which is created by taking the wrong do-er off the hook. 

While this is difficult, as we tend to believe that the less we have to be responsible for makes for an easy breezy life, there is amazing self worth that occurs.  Self worth is Self love.  Self love is the energetic creation of healthy boundaries.

Forgiveness is empowering.

Have you forgiven someone today?